We certainly aren’t marriage or relationship experts, and
some would say that after being together only 6 years, we don’t have the
longevity to speak on this topic; however, at this point in our life together,
here’s what we feel has made all the difference in our marriage:
WE comes before I or OTHERS
o We don’t necessarily put each other first,
rather – we put our marriage first. Our little nuclear family takes priority
over all.
We tease each other
o
Honestly, we do give each other a really hard
time, but it is light-hearted! Teasing is certainly a medium of affection
between the two of us.
· We interview each other
o
Even though we like to think we know each other
inside-out, we both ask a lot of questions of each other, and sometimes the
answers are surprising/unexpected! Car rides and meals out are when the bulk of
the interviewing happens. It’s a way we subconsciously tell each other “I still
think you are an incredibly intriguing creature” :-)
· We push each other
o
This part has more layers than an onion. From workouts together, to career moves, to
personality issues….we challenge each other to be more, to do more.
·
We apologize
o
Maybe not always immediately or when the other
really needs it….but it comes, eventually. :-)
· We celebrate each other
o
Birthdays, successes on the job, life events….we
try to make a big deal out of the little things! We strive to be each other’s Cheerleader/#1
Fan!
· We seek inspiration in other couples
o
As individuals, we try to only surround
ourselves with positive and motivated people. As a couple, we like to do the
same – find other couples, whose relationships we admire, and steal from what
they’re doing. Conversely, we also take note of things we see other couples
doing that we don’t want….which usually plays out with one of us saying “If you
EVER did that, I would kick your ass!” :-)
·
We laugh
o
You know how Buddy the Elf says smiling is his
favorite?? Well laughing is ours! Most of the time it comes from the
aforementioned piece about teasing each other, but we look for sources of
laughter anywhere and everywhere!
· We are honest with each other
o
Neither of us are mind-readers, so we don’t
expect each other to magically know something. If you want ____ say you want ____! Also, if one of us is being a jerk, the other tells them!
Sometimes we tell each other through our dog Bo…you know, talking to the dog
with the other in ear-shot: “WOW, Daddy is sure in a bad mood today, huh BoBo?”
C’mon – we can’t be the only ones who do that!! :-)
· We do stuff together
o
It is safe to say we are each other’s favorite
person – you know, that person when you always want to hang out with! While we
have our own individual interests, we always prefer to “do stuff” together!
We hope to look back on this is several years to see what's changed or what we've added! We'd love to hear what's made the difference in your marriage or relationship!! Feel free to comment below (anonymously if you want!)
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