Tuesday, April 8, 2014

I got 99 problems and my spouse is one...

Being that Fit with Farrar is a duo....yeah, we're married (in case you missed that memo)....we often field the question of "How do I get my spouse motivated to do this with me?" or we hear "I'm trying, but my spouse isn't supportive and sabotages my progress!"
Having a spouse, partner, or significant other who isn't on-board (or worse, is completely against) with your attempt at leading a healthier lifestyle can be extremely tough. It can make it harder on you to maintain your changes and it can add stress and resentful feelings between you both.

Now, no one is saying you have to be like this...

You certainly could if you wanted, but we just want to give you a few quick tips on how to get your spouse on the healthy habits wagon with you.

  • Avoid "shoulds" - we all know when someone tells you should or need, you automatically resist.
  • Focus on their positives. Instead of criticizing when they're exhibiting unhealthy habits, put your focus into recognizing and pointing out when they exhibit a healthy habit. (Helpful side-note: this also works for children and managing behaviors!)
  • Show them how great it can be. Let them see you work out and have that smile/endorphin rush. Talk about how delicious your healthy meal is!
  • Focus on the benefits outside of the scale. Point out how good you feel, how much better you sleep,etc.
  • Be consistent. For your sake and for theirs. 

It's not likely to happen overnight. I (Tim) was several months into my lifestyle change before Lindsay got on board too. Also, don't feel like you can't do anything without them. You can make a lifestyle change without your spouse....yes, it helps a million times over if they're on-board too, but it's not impossible to do without them! Just stay focused, be consistent, and use some of the tips above....we'd be willing to bet money they'll come around.

In Health,

Tim and Lindsay
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  1. Hi guys! I had a quick question about your blog and was hoping you could email me when you get the chance, thanks! - Emily

    1. Sure thing, Emily. What's your email? Or better yet - you can email us at fitwithfarrar@gmail.com